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Five Stumbling Blocks To Successful
Networking And How To Overcome Them
By Lydia Ramsey
The ability to connect with people is essential to success in any business.
Professional networking events present opportunities to interact with others
on a personal level and to develop profitable relationships. These occasions
are critical for anyone who wants to grow a business or promote a career.
Many people are simply not comfortable walking into a room full of strangers
and striking up conversations. Here are five common stumbling blocks that
you may face and tips to help you overcome them.
A RELUCTANCE TO TALK TO STRANGERS. You were taught at an early age not to
speak to people you don't know. It's not safe. In certain situations today
this is still good advice. In business, however, talking to strangers is a
way to generate interest and support for your products and services. If you
only talk to the people you already know, you will miss out on opportunities
to make new connections and establish valuable contacts.
To get past your discomfort in talking to strangers, set a goal for yourself
before you attend any networking event. Decide how many new contacts you
want to make or how many strangers you want to meet. In some cases, you may
specifically target individuals whom you'd like to know.
Next come up with some icebreakers or conversation starters. Have questions
prepared that you can ask anyone you meet at the event. You may want to
inquire about other people's business, their connection to the sponsoring
organization or their opinion of the venue.
LACK OF A FORMAL INTRODUCTION. It's much easier to make a new contact when
there is someone else to handle the introduction and pave the way. If you
wait for another person to make the move you may not meet anyone. At
networking events, the goal is to meet as many people as possible.
This is the time to take the bull by the horns, walk up to people you don't
know, introduce yourself and start a conversation. You can do this if you
have prepared your self-introduction in advance.
You will not introduce yourself the same way on every occasion. Perhaps it
is your first time to attend an association meeting. In that case, you might
want to say that as part of your introduction. Let people know who you are,
why you are there and give them a reason to ask more abut you.
FEAR OF BEING SEEN AS PUSHY. You may think that you will turn people off if
you are assertive and that if they want to talk to you, they will make the
first move. If this is your line of thinking you will find yourself spending
your time alone at the reception or meeting function and leaving without a
single new connection. Being open, friendly and interested does not turn
people off.
You will not come across as overly aggressive if you seek out the
"approachable" people. These are the ones who are standing alone or who are
speaking in groups of three or more. Two people talking to each other are
not approachable because they may be having a private conversation and you
would be interrupting.
THINKING THAT OTHER PEOPLE MAY NOT LIKE YOU. There is always the risk that
the other person is not interested in you and doesn't want to meet or talk
to you. It happens. If that is the case, don't take it personally. Nothing
ventured is nothing gained. When you get a cold shoulder, smile, move on and
say to yourself, "Next?"
HAVING YOUR INTENTIONS MISUNDERSTOOD. Approaching someone of the opposite
sex to begin a conversation may seem more like flirting than networking.
This is more of an issue for women than men. Women have an equal place in
the work arena and need to make professional connections the same as men do.
Women in business can no longer afford to hold back when there is
opportunity at hand.
Neither men nor women will have their motives misinterpreted if they present
themselves professionally in their attire and if they keep the conversation
focused on business issues or topics that are not personal or private.
Whatever your stumbling blocks, face them before the next networking event
and devise a personal plan for getting past them. Once you do, you will find
yourself connecting with confidence and courtesy on every occasion and the
results will be reflected in your bottom line.
(c) 2005, Lydia Ramsey. All rights in all media reserved.
About the author:
Lydia Ramsey is a business etiquette expert, professional speaker, corporate
trainer and author of Manners That Sell - Adding the Polish that Builds
Profits. She has been quoted or featured in The New York Times,
Investors'
Business Daily, Entrepreneur, Inc., Real Simple and
Woman's Day. For more
information about her programs, products and services, e-mail her at
lydia@mannersthatsell.com
or visit her web site
http://www.mannersthatsell.com.
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